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Don't Work If You Don't Get Paid.

(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)





Don't Work If You Don't Get Paid.
(energy, emotions, people, situations)

WATCH YOUR THOUGHTS - NO THOUGHTS, NO PROBLEMS:

From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)



As a discipline, ask yourself if thinking what you are thinking; giving you a Positive (giving you energy, going somewhere) or a Negative (draining your energy, going no where)
We exist beyond our thoughts or 'Status' - : Who am I? (unanswerable fear question)
We are energy; feeling...
When you were a baby, you didn't know who you were, yet you existed; and experiencing life...
In an Orgasm, do you care who you are or even that you have a body?..:) .... (pleasure)
You exist and continue to be Who You Are without having to tell yourself or anyone else who you are; and so you are Energy, … Because you are energy, you are directed by FEELING, And You will be led by where ever you Tell yourself to go.
You have the 'freedom' to Think.. This freedom is given to you, so direct it to love, tell yourself loving things,…

POEM: 'Reflecting Horizons' By Helen Leigh

In the journey you ride alone,
I am the mist that follows behind.
When the world gets really loud,
I'll be the quiet in your mind.
When your vibrant like a star,
I'll be watching with a smile,
You can sit in peace with me,
And you can rest for awhile.

I will be the rock you lay,
Your foundation down,
You can build your home on me,
And I will be your ground.
You can feel safe to know,
When your shining like the Sun,
I will cherish who you are,
In 'Reflecting Horizons'.

For all the times you sacrificed,
And the silent tears you shed,
For the conditional love,
That left you for dead.
I will always be listening,
With an unconditional heart,
I will protect you like the little ones,
To walk your glory path.

You can lay your foundation,
Down upon me,
You can build a solid home,
And your ground I will be,
You can feel safe to know,
When your shining like the Sun,
I will always be here,
'Reflecting Horizons'.

POEM: "The Girl With The Raven Hair'. By Helen Leigh

Moonlight lit the cold night air,
And showed the face of true despair,
Was such a girl embodied there,
The girl with the Raven hair.

She sat upon the seat and wept,
While the winds they blew for her bereft,
And revealed that there was nothing left,
The girl with the Sparrow breast.

With tear filled eyes soaked hopeless face,
She looked up from the deep disgrace,
And begged to change with nights embrace,
The girl with the Robins gaze.

At once the chill had left the air,
Clouds parted way and a Star appeared,
To let her know that someone's there,
For the girl with the Raven hair.

POEM: THE FINGERS OF GOD BY HELEN LEIGH

And there I lay, my back touching the Earth,
And I looked up, and Three Huge Trees were before me,
Like the three fingers of God,
Touching the Earth, Touching my Being...
And the Awesomeness of these Finger Trees,
Humbled me in their Magnificence,
As they shook and hissed with the dancing breeze.

POEMS: BLISS 1 & 2 BY HELEN LEIGH

(from - Life and Lessons Poetry By Helen Leigh)



'Bliss'
Sun Warmed Cheeks Tasting Salty Lips Listening to the Ocean Smelling Sun Tan Lotion Soft Sand Under Both Hands Stinging Eyes Salty and Tired A Sigh A Smile Sleep For Awhile


'Bliss 2'
Looking up at the clear blue sky The fragrant scent of Daisy Grass Earth Scratchy towel under bare skinned body The buzz of a passing Bee A tickle on your knee you look A Fly
Shake it off
Close back your eyes
A sigh
A smile
Sleep for Awhile

POEM : 'LIFE IS GOOD' BY HELEN LEIGH

(from - Life and Lessons Poetry By Helen Leigh)





No matter how bad your life is No Money, No Home Alone 20 cents left on your cell phone
If you can dance in the shower
Using the soap as a microphone Singing at the top of your lungs splashing for an hour Then, Life is Good.
No matter how bleak your life looks No Health, No Rest Stressed Wondering what misfortune will happen next
If you can dance in the Kitchen Using the Cupboard door as a dance partner Singing at the top of your lungs Serenading the Vege-Mix Tin
Then Life is Good.
If you can sing to your Cats Dance around in your Flat Putting on the biggest show Using the furniture as props for your Acts
Then you know....
Life is good.

FUTURE SELF:

(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)




If you truly want to make changes to yourself, you have to hold a future projection of who you want to be. Keep holding this projection; the feelings you want, the attitude you want, the way you want to be. Let those around you that don't like this fall away and keep holding your projection.
'It is said that one day the Buddha was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. “You have no right teaching others,” he shouted. “You are as stupid as everyone else. You are nothing but a fake!”
The Buddha was not upset by these insults. Instead he asked the young man, “Tell me, if you buy a gift for someone, and that person does not take it, to whom does the gift belong?”
The young man was surprised to be asked such a strange question and answered, “It would belong to me, because I…

TURN ON, TUNE IN AND...DROP OUT!

(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)




Master your 'Sleep Zones', learn that when you stop struggling against everything, that things just start to become easier and work in your favour and what you desire comes to you instead of you struggling to grab it. Metaphorically you are walking around with a clenched fist and your nails are digging into your palm and you think that by clenching tighter that the pain will go away, when in fact all you have to do is open up your hand and stretch out your fingers and ... Let Go...
Don't run the list of why, and what, happens, if you let go, just let go. The more sleep you get (as in the more switched off and relaxed you are, no thoughts, no worries, no 'things' you need or need to do) the more you can manifest what you want and desire, if you stop struggling and trying, you start to pick up on how life is r…

IT'S YOU:

(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)




A lot of People don't realise that most of their problems/obstacles in life, or their issues with relationships etc.. is actually 'Them' and not other people.

When you are young you always blame everyone and it is always someone else doing something 'to you', and it is 'them' being flawed; But later on in life, you start to see more of your own flaws, you see that perhaps some of your problems with, relationships, jobs, finances etc... Were something 'You' were making.
For example, in your Relationships, perhaps the people in your life that ignored you or didn't give you the love you wanted; Didn't, because you were quite selfish, (self focused) or you had a bitchy/asshole side that kept sabotaging the good that you built, perhaps you didn't really have your own identity or lov…

POEM: THE SUPER-ONES BY HELEN LEIGH

(from - Life and Lessons Poetry By Helen Leigh)


Sometimes I feel a bit like Superman... ….Superwoman... Perhaps a Stupid - Woman In a world that beats down a Super-man ….Super- People
That's not reason-able.

You have to have a secret identity Seen and Unseen
Blend in
Even though you don't Fit in
Act like a Citizen
Even though your a Queen...
... King
Keep your Majesty within.

Super – Duper fighting for truth against the Stupid Silenced by the masses
Only focussed on their Assets..
…..Asses...

Being Super is a weakness
To those who wish to see less
Punishing those who clean up the mess.
Suffering
Lying
Dying
Crying
No one Caring
No one Trying
Accept the Super-ones
Are quietly changing how the World Runs.

Sometimes we forget we are all Superman
….Supermen
Super-Women
There are no Boxes to check or fill in
It's a choice, a chance
To do some 'Real' work
A 'Life' Class
Open the heart
Super-Enhanced
Recognise the Importance...
Wh…

MORALS:

From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)



People get confused between care and morals, and mix the two together.
Care is unconditional and allows others to do and say what they feel, but morals have conditions on everything, it restricts how people should act, say and do and dictates how they should be treated if they don't abide by moral standards.
Morals judge and blame and if you use them, you become numb.
Being Numb happens out of hardness and when we choose to use our emotions on others and become offended.
If you witness something offensive, your initial reaction is to decide that you don't like it, you then become upset and emotional and then make the decision to deal with the offender, but in having to action out your moral disgust, you then have cut off your feelings and out of your own fear and disgust, treat the offender or offence like they are a Numb-b…

FAMILY:

(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)



If it's your Family and Friends then you stick up for them and defend them, no matter what.
If someone is telling you something negative about them, then you stop them straight away and tell them, 'No, they wouldn't do that', even if it sounds plausible or you feel you have to be polite, Don't be polite, you tell them that you don't want to hear them talking about your loved one in that way again.
If it's your family and friends then they can make many mistakes and keep making them, and you will always be there for them, not just make one mistake and their out! No matter how huge it is.
Even in your head, if they have done something that seems wrong to you, you say to yourself, 'I know they didn't mean it', defend them, have their back, even if your hurt, say it because there are always rea…

REVOLVING AROUND YOURSELF:

(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)



When everything revolves around you and only your perspective and how you feel, then that is all you will have room in your life for... You.




POEM - LOVE PART 1 & 2 BY HELEN LEIGH

(from - Love and Appreciation Poetry By Helen Leigh)




'Love' part 1
By Helen Leigh

My heart beat flickers, then it quivers,
And as the beat quickens,
So the rise of love begins,
And the endorphins like in dolphins,
Emerging from the water,
Spraying salty drops like sequence,
And so it begins,
In a shower of diamonds,
We are without ends,
And our path only bends,
When we turn our heads,
But thats just the light refracting,
And within that attracting,
The facets shine a million reflections divine,
And all within your eye, you shine,
Share with me yours,
And I'll share you mine,
Let love be you guide.


‎'Love' Part 2
By Helen Leigh

Run to the edge with me,
And feel the rush of expectancy,
When the tendancy Is to hold back, Just let go,
I'll hold you close to me.
Life is your intention, Not for tense-In',
Lay down your pretention,
Because the real you is the lesson.

Anything you want you can have,
There's a rainbow in your bag,
And it's up for grabs.

The silver lining its always ther…

APPREICATION:

(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)


Your ultimate goal should be to only see what you want out of life. The highest form of living is living in appreciation.

So whatever is given to you in your life, perhaps an item that you have wanted for months but then forget about it the next morning? Dis-Acknowledge it. Then you are not living in appreciation and this split second reality that holds no value for you, will not serve you, it will depress you deeply and make you feel empty.
The goal is to feel more; follow your feelings.

BE EASY:

(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)



People always think that pushing harder or trying more will get them over their obstacle or help them achieve happiness, but it is in fact the opposite....
You can't get Happy from 'Trying' to be happy, Happiness only comes when you stop Trying.

POEM: 'Winds Of Change' - By Helen Leigh

(from - Life and Lessons Poetry By Helen Leigh)



Blow the winds that send gusts streaming,
Through the night were stars lay gleaming,
Force the change of fortunes seeming,
Turning lifes low lamp to beaming.

Misty moss beneath your hiding,
Come forth now from your green binding,
The earth does celebrate your timing,
Emerging with your silver lining.

Clouds will part with rains receeding,
Light will shine like crystal dreaming,
You will have what your believing,
Within the bonds your souls receiving.

BE AN INSPIRATION:

(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)


If there is someone in your life that is Hurting, Sick, or Having Huge life Problems, don't get scared and make it about your feelings.
Your instinct is to run when you see someone close to you facing something big, but Instead, think about them, think about how you can inspire them to carry on.
If you don't run away from someone and their problems you may be the very person to change their lives and watch them be a success instead of a victim.
Don't think of someone's illness or hardship as a burden on you and how sad you feel or how much pity you feel, think about how you can inspire them to use what they can do, instead of focusing on what they can't and how it makes you feel; make them feel better, think about their feelings; not your own.
If someone can't walk, get them to write, if someone can'…

POEM: MOON WISDOM - By Helen Leigh

(from - Life and Lessons Poetry By Helen Leigh)



The Sun laid the last of it's rays upon the Leaves, And all became silent as the Night starts to breathe, The Clouds now just tipped with a fading crimson hue, Giving vibrancy to all, in Technicolor view.
And this is how it starts, When The Moon is in View, With the Path laid out ahead, And so is what to do, This is what to do.
The Pearl Moon bobs upon the Waves of Night, Dousing the World with it's tides of black and white, The Flowers now bathed in sleepy purple -grey, Bow their heads in Moon Glow, as the Dream-boat casts away.

And this is how it starts, When The Moon is in View, With the Path laid out ahead, And so is what to do, This is what to do.


The Dawn it now Arises with a slow and steady ease, Lighting the road ahead, a flapping ribbon in the breeze, Taking Moon Time Wisdom, and the dreams the night has laid, Awakening with the fire, of the golden Sunrise rays.

And this is how it starts, When The Moon is in View, With the Path laid out ahead, An…

YOUR LIFE MATTERS:

(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)



Always hold yourself accountable, do what's right, keep your integrity, look after yourself and your body, do what is the best for you..
**** Even when no one is watching you*****
Don't ever think your life doesn't *mean* anything; even if it means nothing to anyone else, make it mean something TO YOU!
Even if no one cares for you, or no one remembers you or your life or what you have done or gone through, go and Have your OWN Life!
Record your own experiences, make your own goals and achieve them, because YOU always matter.
You are on this journey alone, despite the fact that you have people all around you, you may even be greatly influential, but this is still your journey, your experiences, and no one can experience your life with you and see through your eyes, and at some point in life whether early or late in you…

POEM: 'THE ANGEL QUEEN' - By Helen Leigh

(from - Imagination and Playfull Poetry By Helen Leigh)




The Angel Queen was born from a Star, When the Moon was newly made, It's luminescent glow shone on to the Star, And the Queen was the Gift it gave.
She Travelled to Earth to protect it from harm, And all that upon it tread, She is the sound of the Wind, the rhythm of the Rain, And the voice inside your head.
She is; In form, just 1 inch tall, No bigger than a Bug, Her Wings are made from Snail Shells, For her, they now are Slugs.
The Wings are bound by The Spider Queen, As there is no finer thread, And her Wisdom and Magic is patterned in them, With the Instinct of All Unsaid.
Her Hair's the Eyelashes that fall when we Laugh, And her dress; The first Hair that we Shed, She's the keeper of Souls, and makes us Great, And the giver of our Road Ahead.
In her left hand she holds a Pencil; Carved, From the root of the Tree of Knowledge, In her right is a Book, she writes on the World, Transforming our Fears into Courage.
This Pervasive Queen, like…

LIFE

(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)


Next time your out, make a conscious effort to take a look at the people around you, and recognise that they each have lives, things to do, places to go and be, likes, dislikes, feelings...
...And when someone cuts you off on the road, and it pisses you off, and you get angry at that: 'Idiot' or that 'Some - 'Thing' that got in your way, just remember they still have lives and are still feeling beings, just like you..
It is not to say that you shouldn't correct someone who is doing wrong or could potentially hurt someone, but Objectifying anything, whether it be a person, or animal, is a kind of numbness that takes away love and appreciation from your life, it also gives you licence to hurt another for doing wrong to you, and to not acknowledge that they have feelings also... This is not the way an evo…

POEM - 'The Higher You Go The More You Bounce' - By Helen Leigh

(from - Life and Lessons Poetry By Helen Leigh)

Get down on the ground, The higher you go, The more you bounce.
Make a superfluous fascade of lust, Throw your neighbour under the bus  Ignore their pain, Focus on what you can gain.

What do you think will come of this?
When all is lost that you dismiss, And when you look it cant be found,

Because the higher you go, The more you bounce.
People are ignoring, objectifying and warring,
being completely boring, Numbing the senses in senselss exploring.
As long as you look good that's all that matters, People are only good for climbing ladders, keep getting fatter on flatterers, Because with every pound,
The higher you go, The more you bounce.
Get down on the ground, What goes around doesn't make a sound, if you don't go up, your soul will be found.
Because the higher you go, The more you bounce.

FLIPPING DEPRESSION

(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)

Depression, Sorrow, Anxiety are not a 'Mystery' they definitely have a cause and affect and a completely logical explanation, they are not something out of your control, they do not surprise attack you, and like all afflictions, it is always a result of something you are doing or not doing or overdoing; and you do have control over how you feel, even if you 'Think, you, Feel, you don't'.
Everyone has experienced Depression, it is common and a natural response. If it was more embraced than feared and we were taught about how to manage our feelings in our society, rather than pretend we are fine and put on an ego face; (that somehow being happy and having 'things' means you are superior) then depression would surely not be as bad and so extreme in its consequences. So in saying this;
The simple cause of…

POEM - 'Who Do You Want To Be'? - Poem By Helen Leigh

(from - Life and Lessons Poetry By Helen Leigh)



I'm not going to write of Politics and Economy,
I see no reason to bitch about the;
Who, What, Whys and Wanna-be's,
This loop has been repeating for decades and centuries,
And now it's time to stop and take stock of all your pleasantries.

I wish I didn't know what down and out was like,
Or that I know, there are those,
Who strive to make you fight,
What I do want to say is that the only thing you have,
Is yourself and your heart,
And your will to expand.

I wonder why we make the world as small as ourselves,
The limits and the Boundaries,
The mind-numbing hells.
I will never understand why we always feel inadequate,
Like the 'Sure' is unobtainable,
And we compare like we can't handle it.

Why must we feel down if we are not recognisable,
Why must our achievements be of material appraisal,
What is the real and the truth and the free,
What does it mean to be more than just a being.

These are the questions that loop for decades and cen…

TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOUR DISADVANTAGES

(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)




Instead of feeling sorry about what has happened or is happening to you, learn from it.
Instead of hiding in your problems, feeling victimised and sorry for yourself, use them as tools to help others and improve yourself and Life.
Use your experiences, to form character and change the bad things in your life into blessings for others.
Without the experiences/obstacles we all face, we would not know how to treat others in a similar position to us, and so instead of overcoming them and then running away; pretending we never experienced the hardship, if we instead develop compassion and understanding, we can create more love.
Most times without learning compassion we don't get to see what our Soul's calling is and who we are supposed to be. When we stop blaming everyone else, and instead think: 'What is my part in my pr…

POEM - 'Seen' - By Helen Leigh

(from - Life and Lessons Poetry By Helen Leigh)



When no one else sees you, the Universe does, And the silence of you will be heard. When no one accepts you, the Universe does, And hangs on your every word.
You may not be noticed at all right now, But The Universe notices you. And When the time comes, the Universe will reveal; Yourself to be noted and viewed.
So just be at ease and enjoy this time, Of the invisible beauty you see. Because the Universe will tap on your shoulder; one day To reveal You when your ready.

VICTOR OR VICTIM

(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)



There are two ways you can handle your problems: Victor or Victim Mentality.
A Victim, implodes, takes the problem personally like it is a reflection on them and as an attack and then keeps, 'TRYING' to either make it better or be understood and usually to the something that caused this problem in the first place that doesn't care, which results in the Victim becoming Emotional: Angry, Hysterical, Depressed or violent. There is no detached awareness.

The Victor Mentality, see's the problem and knows where it is coming from and doesn't react. The Victor Stands their ground and does not entertain the problem, but instead waits, watches and then resolves it having analysed how the problem is coming in.

POEM - 'The World Is A Consciousness' - By Helen Leigh

(from - Life and Lessons Poetry By Helen Leigh)



Some people sift for dirt and Some people sift for gold,
Why are you Inversion Building,
When you can Extricate,
In love exertion.

And the world is a conciousness
I hold in my hand,
The fist or the palm,
The freedom or the damned.

Some people see the strange and Some people see the abstract,
What you see as a weakness,
Is your own reflection,
To see less.

And the world is a conciousness
I hold in my hand,
The fist or the palm,
The freedom or the damned.

Your hard-hearted way is no longer good here, good day,
No day,
One day,
To-day,
The light is seen only when you look at it,
Make a way.
Where there is none,
Some
People look the fist and some people look at the palm,
Why are you duality charade-ing
You have the emperors new clothes,
That you're parading.

And the world is a conciousness,
We hold in our hands,
It takes just one with love,
Like the sun,
To give that freedom run,
Believe it can.

POEM - 'There's a place for you' - By Helen Leigh

(from - Life and lessons Poetry By Helen Leigh)



*There is a place for you,
A gap and a space for you,
And you can drop all your attitude,
The act is so cool,
But I'm telling you,
In this space,
It's Unconditional.

Rewind it back,
In a head nodding atmosphere,
Where yes,
You are the best,
And there is no trying here,
And where you go,
And how you flow,
Is now crystal clear.

Your core truth is a sword, Protection or pain, Depends on your skill, On your word, On your name, You're brighter than the Sun; Stronger than a hurricane.

The place is here for you, Waiting for your follow through, Your luck is standing by, For its happy-go cue, It's in your hands, Make a stand, Speak your Truth.

FEELING OTHERS

(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)



*Develop the skill to really look at another and try to feel their perspective or gage what they like and feel about things.
Don't talk at someone to hear yourself. To hear how clever you are or how meaningful you are or how understanding you are, and when the other person talks don't relate what they say only to yourself. This creates meaningless talking, just speaking out loud to yourself. You are just reverberating yourself at someone else, and it's childlike/Immature to only believe you are the most important person and that everything someone says relates to you or has to relate to you so that you can be compassionate and understanding.
It is immature to have people serve you in this way and it is boring for others too.
Life is so much greater and richer if you please others how they want to be pleased, not by…

IT'S YOU:

(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)



It's not that your Relationship(s) take work; 'YOU' take work.

POEM - 'Is There A Tiny Man In Your Ear Too'??? - By Helen Leigh

(from  - Imagination and Playful Poetry By Helen Leigh)



Inside the crease of my left ear,
Was not a strand of my own hair,
But instead it was a tiny chair?
Atop this chair sat a tiny man,
Who's golden glow was an ear wax tan,
And this is how it all began....

Upon my finger; through magnifying glass,
He wrote me notes of all his tasks,
I read each one with ooh's and gasps!
This orange man in a 3 piece suit,
Has been telling me what I should do,
Including writing this to you!

He pointed his finger to my head,
'You never hear a word I'v said',
'Inspiring you's like waking the dead'!
'But now it's time that you will hear,
So put me back inside your ear,
There is so much to do in there'!

So back he went and alerted the town,
From Black Wax Eddie to Creamy Goldie Brown,
And Sounded the ear drum for all to come now.

With a rush of noise in my ear,
It all became so crystal clear,
You wont believe what I can hear...
Millions of voices like waxy ideas,…

ASSERTIVENESS

(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - Chapter One - Personal Development)

True Assertion and Confidence creates Stability, Care and Calmness. It isn't to be misconstrued as bossiness or rudeness.
And True Assertion isn't delivered with hardness, it is the opposite.
To be the right kind of Assertive you must deliver it with direct, clear, softness. If you must say something forcefully or with anger, then whatever you are doing, it is not for the right reasons.
...It is strength of Character and an honest trust in what is Right that is delivered with ease not force.
It also enables others to feel assured that they know where they stand with you and where you are coming from because you are unafraid to tell them, and you know what you want and are a clear and balanced person.
As opposed to the unassertive person who is a shakey, questioning, guessing person, who will constantly ask what you think;.. and that you should go first, and questio…

LIVING IT

(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - Chapter One - Personal Development


If you want to be a better person, be a hero, be special, do something significant with your life, change others, affect the world, then you have to live it in every corner of your life with what you can do and change.... How you Talk, Dress, Eat, ....
Not talk about it, BE IT.

IMPROVING YOUR PERSONALITY:

(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - Chapter One - Personal Development)

Is Pain really necessary? If you take everything 'Personally' then pain is inevitable.
If you decide you don't want to share pain with another, or theirs with you, then you Won't.